“Forgiveness is letting go of what is behind you and choosing to focus instead on the good things you have today.” – Chris Brown

Forgiveness, I wish I could truly explain to you what it means. I have had to forgive many a thing through this life. I have also needed to be forgiven for my mistakes.

We have heard many times that “to forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Lewis B Smedes

Holding on to unforgiveness will imprison you. The thoughts and feelings will keep you trapped within your own mind. It will cause bitterness which will, in time, eat you up. Have you ever noticed people who cannot forgive? They carry so much emotional hurts that you can see it on their countenance. And there have been times where that person was me.

When someone wrongs you, you must decide whether you want freedom or bitterness. Easy? Not even maybe but so worth it.

Unforgiveness will affect every area of your life. It will affect your health, emotional state, relationships, employment, studies. Etc. Whatever you do, it will be there.

There has been a time when I was called names that I cannot even type out. It was devastating. I know now that it came from a place of hurt but it still cuts deep. A deep place of emotional hurt. It will keep you wondering if you really are what they called you. It can bring deep despair and embarrassment, to the point of keeping you in bondage.

What if I am __________?

Am I really a __________?

In order to move forward, forgiveness is needing to happen. Choosing to forgive them will set you free. You need to know the truth about you.

You are loved.

You are wonderfully made.

Their response is not your responsibility.

My reaction to their actions is critical.

Our words have the power to build up or tear down.

Letting go doesn’t always mean you won’t remember but when you do remember you choose to say, “I forgive”.

If you don’t, it will eat you up.

If you do, you will enjoy the freedom to enjoy your life.

Forgiveness is not an option. It is a command.

Ephesians 4:31-32 MSG

Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with each other, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.

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We can do this together.